I doubt that anything less dramatic than a horrendous pandemic, which has brought unprecedented illness and death, job losses and a total upending of social and professional lives, could have begun to dislodge society’s expectations for the way women turn themselves out — that is, the idea that we should diet and doll ourselves up in order to present as slim and shapely for the judgment of others.
This often means wearing loose jeans, neat and presentable — and far more comfortable, casual and forgiving than skinny jeans. While this pandemic-era change in expectations is true for people of all genders (men’s baggy jeans are also selling well) it is especially liberating for women, for two reasons.
Second, skinny jeans conform to and reveal the shape of a woman’s body, and thus make it easier to, well, assess it. Loose-fitting jeans make that harder to do. This distinction is obvious and important, because it’s long past time for anyone who views a woman’s body to believe it to be his or her right to weigh in on how it looks.
In her memoir, “Recollections of my Nonexistence,” feminist writer Rebecca Solnit noted that, when you are a woman, “everyone is free to judge you.” And it’s almost impossible to live up to our society’s exacting standards for how a woman should appear. “A woman exists in a perpetual state of wrongness,” Solnit wrote, “and the only way to triumph is to refuse the terms by which this is so.”
But for this homebound trend to really take hold more broadly, it has to extend beyond jeans and back into the office. We all need to think more carefully about how we think a woman needs to present herself to appear successful at work.
Here is my proposal for a place to start: when we all head back to our brick and mortar workplaces, let’s leave behind the objects of our sartorial torture. Do not dig out those high heels that make simply walking through the world so precarious, or the Spanx and control-top pantyhose that crush our stomachs at the expense of our comfort. What about flowing skirts instead of the pencil kind, baggy tailored pants and sometimes even mom jeans?
Let’s dress for ourselves rather than for others — and, if we all start doing so, it will become the norm.
It’s unfortunate that it’s taken such a seismic event to make this happen, but the embrace of jeans that are less restrictive, less glam and less revealing is a significant step toward relaxing our society’s impossible expectations of women.
We should all keep the trend en vogue.